BPD girlfriends common treads

I have come to learn of borderline personality disorder through an obsessive search for answers in the horrible aftermath of the greatest love I have ever known. What I learned was three of the four heartbreaks of my life were at the hands of BPD's. The fourth was just your everyday lying, selfish bitch, but who knows. I believe we all have a little personality disorder sometimes.

The common threads of the three women in focus were:
1. All initially pursued me.
2. All told me what I wanted to hear. Flattery. A lot of it.
3. All were victims who claimed they were mistreated by their past lovers.
4. All were sexually aggressive, very satisfying and were undeniably satisfied.
5. All claimed we were soul mates.
6. All needed great attention.
7. All projected their flaws and insecurities on me.
8. All were so much fun to be with. On and off.
9. All lied, cheated and left with far less attractive men. None of those relationships lasted long.
10. All betrayed me and showed little if any genuine remorse. It was as if I suddenly meant nothing, for no reason and was given no explanation. Any attempt to get one was met with childlike frustration, insults or silence. There was no changing their decision or working out the mystery problem.

Its important to note that all BPD's are not equal. To keep it simple, they can be broken down into two groups. The outward aggressive and the passive aggressive. The outward being the classic raging, insulting, physically abusive and cruel bitch. The passive being the sweet and innocent lying machine. Referred to as the "Quiet" or "Waif" bpd. It has been my experience that the passive one can be far more damaging to you psychologically and spiritually. Reason being. You don't know that you have been abused the whole time until it's too late. A classic BPD gives you more then enough instability to say to yourself.... " I can't deal with this the rest of my life". 

I am feeling generous today so I will remind you. These people a very sick and need a ton of compassion. However not from you anymore. They need a good therapist. Most likely so do you.

I think, I have just about made every wrong decision in dealing with this problem at one time or another with one girl or another. Many times I knew what to do but the emotion of heart break got the best of me. I will be sharing everything in a very unprofessional way if need be. Thoughts on how to get her back and also why you really don't want to do that. Either way it's the same advice and your best course of action anyway. I assume this will work the same for women as men. BPD is BPD. Borderline men are less talked about, more dangerous and probably the reason women think all men are pigs. If I help one person get through one day. It's worth it.